Why haven't I been blogging lately? A sick 8 month old and a demon possessed 4 yr old. Here is a reply to another mom's blog about tips to deal with a 4 yr old "tantrumer". I found this info after deciding to google the subject before having a tantrum of my own. If I don't get my 1st gray hair after this week, I'll be surprised. Who am I kidding, I probably already have them, they're just covered up with low-lights and high-lights...which reminds me, I need to call my stylist.
I think it's important to say that as I type this it is a Saturday afternoon and my now healthy baby girl has decided that she no longer knows how to self soothe herself back to sleep. Everytime she cuts a tooth or gets sick THIS happens. She is screaming crying right now after only a 45 minute nap when she usually takes 2 hr. one. She woke up 4 times last night and took an hour to go to sleep the first time and 45 minutes the next... and so on. I tried to take a nap with them (talked Asher into an early nap) but precious isn't allowing that. I've go to stick to the "method", which means it's time to go check in on her. Well, MY method is a bit more humane than others suggested by doctors and little old ladies at the checkout. Does it seem like I'm rambling? Yea, that's how my brain feels right now. I'm sure if I tried to talk I'd sound drunk...hmmmm, drunk sounds good right now. I mean, the husband IS home, he's just putting in a chain link fence in the back yard. I joke, I kidd, no drinking my motherhood sorrows away today. Instead I will pray for better sleep, more patience, a calm 4 yr old, and a self soothing baby. OH YEA!! My reply to the other mom:
"I agree with so many of the other comments! I was about to call our priest for an exorcism!! You only ever hear of 2 yr. old tantrums so you think that you're child is experiencing some kind of emotional issues. I wouldn't dare ask the pediatrician because she would probably just blow me off as another "overly-concerned SAHM". Not even the other moms at our playgroups have talked about it. Why are we as mothers so eager to share the ups but not the downs of bringing up children?My mom recommends "The Strong Willed Child" by Dr. James Dobson, as she said I was one myself...ha, who knew! The book explains that our power hungry 4 yr olds usually do quite well in adulthood and excercise great discipline within themselves...(sighhhh). I'm ordering the book today! If you are a praying mom (as I am) I find it helps to pray before disciplining. My prayer has been for me to not lose my patience and to remain calm as Nette has explained...since this often takes a miracle on my part! To remain emotionless is so hard to do when your beloved tender child has been temporarily replaced with a red faced, screaming, flailing, little ball of anger who says he wants a different mommy. I hate those days and often have a good cry at the end of the day. Nobody tells you it's gonna be this hard...but Nette did so thank you!!! Thank you for tips and the candidness; it's nice to know I'm not alone."